MONICA MATEI
Clinical psychologist and
Adlerian psychotherapist


WHO AM I?
I am an Adlerian psychotherapist and clinical psychologist, also specializing in psycho-oncology.
I work with people who are experiencing loss, grief, anxiety, sadness, emotional exhaustion, or periods of difficult transition.
I pay special attention to bereavement after the loss of a pet, a form of suffering that is often misunderstood and invalidated.
I don't offer quick solutions.
I offer presence, containment, and a safe space.
How I work
I meet people in moments of their life, when things no longer look the same as they used to: after a loss, in the face of illness, in a period of exhaustion or confusion.
In the first months after a loss, the focus is on:
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emotional support
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stabilization and containment
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creating a space where pain can be experienced safely
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respect for the rhythm and needs of each person
Psychotherapy and emmotional support is a process of accompaniment, not a race.
My approach through Adlerian psychotherapy
The Adlerian approach views man as a unique being, in search of meaning and belonging.
We work with:
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meaningful relationships
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the courage to be imperfect
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the meaning of suffering
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rebuilding meaning after loss
The principles of my approach:
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Every behavior has a meaning, conscious or unconscious: including what hurts, what seems “wrong” or inappropriate. Understanding the meaning presents the opportunity to change it;
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Direction is more important than "diagnosis": you are not your label, you are a living process;
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Healing happens in relationship: we can get hurt in relationships and we can heal in relationships. In our sessions we build a relationship based on safety, equality, and cooperation;
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The courage to be imperfect: we learn to let go of shame, harsh self-criticism, and perfectionism;
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Belonging and contribution: healing can begin when you feel like you have a place, a direction, a meaning.
Specifically, this means that in therapy or emotional support sessions:
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I listen to you actively and without judging you
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We explore your story and the beliefs formed in childhood
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We seek the meaning of your suffering
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We create new ways of being, more appropriate and authentic
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We work with courage, vulnerability and self-understanding
My journey
My professional journey began in the field of pharmacy, where I worked for several years as a pharmacist. In direct contact with people, I understood that apart from treatment and recommendations, it is also extremely important to be listened to and supported emotionally. My experience in psycho-oncology brought me close to people who live in uncertainty and fear, and this is reflected in the way I accompany emotional suffering.
Education and training
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Bachelor's Degree in Psychology
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Bachelor's Degree in Pharmacy
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Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and Psychological Intervention
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Specialization in psycho-oncology
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Complete training in Adlerian Psychotherapy
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Practice Certificate issued by the College of Psychologists of Romania in the following specializations: Clinical Psychology, Adlerian Psychotherapy and Applied Psychology in the field of national security
My training is complemented by a continuous process of professional development, with a focus on working with emotional distress, grief, and periods of crisis.
HOW CAN I SUPPORT YOU?
I offer you a safe online, confidential, empathetic and non-judgmental space where you can talk about what you are experiencing, even if you don't yet have all the words to describe what you are feeling.
I can accompany you if you are going through:
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a difficult period in your life, when you feel like you can't cope anymore, that everything is too much
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grief and loss, including the loss of a beloved pet
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anxiety, constant restlessness, or emotional exhaustion
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persistent sadness or depressive moods
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a personal crisis or a transitional stage
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an oncological diagnosis or the emotional impact of an illness, on you or a loved one
In the first months after a loss or in a time of crisis, the focus is on emotional support, containment and stabilization. We do not rush the process or force change. We work at a pace that is right for you.
Psychotherapy and emotional support is a process of accompaniment, not a race.
WHAT BENEFITS COULD YOU HAVE?
Psychological intervention or emotional support does't mean producing a change or making pain disappear overnight.
Over time, the process can help you:
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better understand what you are experiencing and why you feel the way you do
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feel less overwhelmed by intense emotions
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find a more appropriate way to cope on the hard days
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reduce your level of anxiety, stress or inner tension
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gradually regain a sense of security
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reconnect with yourself and your needs
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find meaning and continuity, even after loss


