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MONICA MATEI
Clinical psychologist and
Adlerian psychotherapist



The hidden power in everyday life
The other day, I was talking about a few words spoken by the wizard in The Lord of the Rings that stuck in my mind. Well, those weren't the only phrases that got me thinking. Here is another quote that made me reflect on the power each of us has to bring light into the world: "Some believe that only great power can hold evil in check, but that is not what I have found. I have found that it is the small daily deeds of ordinary people that keep the darkness at bay... small acts


What is stress, how does it affect us and what can we do about it?
Today, I would like to bring to your attention a topic that we probably all encounter more often than we would like: stress. It seems to appear as an uninvited guest in our lives just when we are too busy to offer it a cup of tea and a friendly conversation. But what is stress, really? And why does it behave like an uninvited guest who refuses to understand our subtle hints that it is time to leave? So, what is stress? Stress is an automatic, adaptive biological response that


The many faces of Christmas spirit
For many of us, the winter holidays are a magical time when we enjoy being with our loved ones, giving gifts, and celebrating traditions. However, for others, it can be a stressful and anxious time, even leading to symptoms of depression. To understand these changes in mood during the month of gifts, we will consider the factors that shape the atmosphere of these days. Thus, for those of us who enjoyed Christmas as children or have fond memories of this time of ye


What can snow do for us?
As adults, snow can influence our mood in many ways, both positively and negatively, depending on various factors such as our previous experience or different circumstances. On the one hand, snow can be a source of stress for those who have to clear it or travel in these conditions, and on the other hand, the white landscape can induce a state of calm and inner peace. In addition, when snow is associated with fond childhood memories, it can evoke feelings of joy or wonder.


Why are vacation days important for our physical and mental health?
Going on vacation is not a luxury, but a necessity. A well-deserved break not only recharges our batteries, but can also significantly improve our quality of life. Distancing ourselves from the work environment and everyday stress allows the body to recover, reduces cortisol (stress hormone) levels, and can improve sleep quality and cardiovascular function. In addition, it can help us reduce the risk of burnout or reevaluate our priorities. Studies show that a vacation of at


Understanding internalized misogyny and toxic masculinity
Some music videos and the messages they convey can generate heated discussions and differences of opinion. One such example is a video by a singer, which, through its message, nudity, and direct language, has sparked mixed reactions. On the one hand, it is seen as a manifesto, a cry against violence against women, while on the other hand, it is criticized for its methods of expression. That song not only generated a wave of controversy, but also encouraged many women to come


What can we do if we feel sad after the holidays?
Have you ever noticed that after the excitement and joy of the holidays fade away, a wave of melancholy seems to wash over many of us? I recently recalled a conversation with a dear friend who confessed that she felt unusually sad and drained after the holidays. As we shared a hot cup of tea, she told me that during the holidays, everything seems to have a special kind of charm. The whole family gets together, lights are shining everywhere, and the festive atmosphere gives he
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